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Edited by Sir Exo XII:
12/7/2021 6:21:42 PM
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Dealing with death in the family.
Today, just after 12pm EST, my father took his own life in the room just next to mine. All while I was sleeping through the day from a long night of reading. I've never experienced something so horrific, or felt something so cold as his face as I cut and lay him down on the ground before the paramedics could arrive. I know this really isn't the place to express this, but I'm completely out of it. I was really looking forward to tomorrow, and the 30th anniversary event, but this has totally overshadowed that.
Please, if you see someone feeling down, at all, reach out. Make them know you're there for them. And if you're feeling depressed, or alone, don't hesitate to speak your mind and let your friends and family know. We care. Anyway, that's all I got guys.
To those that offered condolences, thank you. I needed that.
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1 ReplyI had a situation similar with a former roommate. We lived together freshmen year and he really helped me with college life. Very outgoing and liked to party. Sophomore year we got into an argument but still made up. He never really responded to my text. Come junior year (current year). My friend Tim tells me Parker isn't around this semester and took it off. I don't know what happened over the summer. He never replied to any text of mine. I hoped we didn't have any bad blood. I couldn't tell. Then one day our group me chat is blowing up and Cory (former RA, senior now) states it's been a hectic 24 hours. I come in and say what's going on and that's when Tim tells me Parker died but he didn't know how. At first I really wasn't to upset about it, I was more in shock. It wasn't until the ceremony and seeing a picture of him in the church until I became upset. I didn't cry but my anxiety got bad, I felt like I was going to pass out. So I had to leave and I ended up breaking down outside of a food building on campus. Because I felt like a coward for not making it through. Was the first death I dealt with. Especially since he was my roommate. I can't imagine how I would make it through my father's death. He's done so much of me and we talk daily. If he died now I would be screwed and my life wouldn't be the same. If my mom died I would be devested but dad dying would give me more of a shocked cold feeling like if I saw a ghost except like a million times worse. I'm so sorry your father died. It's not your fault. United States Hotline 800-273-8255
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I'm sorry for your loss
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I encourage everyone seeing this now, to check the update post. Thank you all, you helped me stay strong.
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Really sorry bro
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That’s just haunting and there’s nothing you can do about it… hope you and your family recover well, my best wishes go out to you all and i hope you know it’s not your fault in any way
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i am so so sorry for your loss, i can’t imagine having to go through something like that you have my condolences
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I lost my father in August, but it does not compare to what you went through. I'm sorry. Prayers and condolences to you and your family.
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Edited by kellygreen45: 12/8/2021 11:17:43 AM1. This wasn’t you fault. This wasn’t your fault. This wasn’t your fault. So any sense of guilt you may feel now or later isn’t warranted. 2. Take your own advice and reach out for help. Just reading what you had to bear witness to gave me chest pain. But people who take their own lives are lost in such a dark place that they just can’t imagine the pain that their loss will cause those who love them. So while your concern for others is admirable. You need to circle the wagons and take care of yourself, and your family one another right now. Again. This was not your fault. I had a friend and roommate who tried to take his life. Fortunately he was unsuccessful and didn’t do himself lasting harm. But it was still like getting hit in the head with a rock. I spent weeks ruminating about what I could have done differently to have prevented it from happening. Don’t go there. You’re in enough pain already. Don’t take on any more unnecessarily. I’m sorry you are going through this. Truly sorry.
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5 RepliesI’m so sorry. Prayers to you and your family.
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I’m sorry for your loss I also have experienced this and I still don’t know what to say or how I should have behaved before the event as it was such an unexpected shock. I just think of the great times the laughs and the the love.
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My condolences, stranger. Sending wishes of peace and love to you and yours in this difficult time. Lost a friend this way some years back. I sympathize with you deeply.
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That sucks. It sucks real bad. I hope things get better for you.
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I think I lost breath by just reading this. Death, especially suicide does hurt. I wish you a swift recovery, may you and your family be well.
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i’m praying for you❤️
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Edited by Seraph: 12/7/2021 4:13:12 PMMy deepest condolences. I cannot begin to imagine how horrific this experience has been for you. If you ever need anyone to talk to, then we are here for you. I lost my father last November ( kidney failure ), and I'm still trying process the whole entire thing, because it happened so fast. Grief hits us all in different ways. And the circumstances of your father's death mean that you are probably dealing with a lot right now. Also, if you need it, don't hesitate to speak to an official grief counselor. I'm sure the professionals are better equipped to console you in this very, very difficult time.
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Extremely sorry for your loss. Hope you can make it through this. Peace.❤
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Edited by pumpkinspice1994: 12/7/2021 4:32:10 PMMy sincerest condolences. I could never imagine going through something as horrific as that. Don’t let their memories bring you down, but lift you up Stay strong, eyes up Guardian
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Thats rough man. Take it one day at a time. It'll eventually get easier.
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Edited by Twitchyloner: 12/8/2021 10:17:09 AMDon't let grief make you numb, or change you as a person. My advice, seek grief counselling and explore your spirituality for balance and closure. I've lost way to many people in my life, so I know the pain all too well.
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So sorry for your loss Sir Exo, how terrible for you & additionally that you had to be the one to find him like this. Your dad must have been so very ill to do this to himself & also to not foresee the horror for you to find him. Having also had a suicide in my close family in the past I know only so well how awful it is for all. We just have to hope that your dad is now in a better place & that he finds peace. It is now left to those left behind to deal with the fall out of it all unfortunately & it will take 1 step at time to go forward in to the future & find some peace yourself some day. Strength to you & try not to go it alone, engage with friends & family & it is always perfectly ok to seek counseling.
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Sorry for your loss. You can Pm me if you really need someons to talk to.
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I’m so sorry for your loss.know you’re not alone and that if you do ever need someone to talk you can PM me. My best friend killed himself at the beginning of this year and the day I found out was the most heartbroken I’ve ever felt. I can’t imagine how you must feel. I had a group of people who were affected by his loss as well and having people with similar experiences helps. I will be praying for you and anyone else who is affected by him.
