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Edited by Emperor Bell: 12/28/2014 11:47:34 AM
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To friendzone oneself on purpose

This is the tale of how I decided to friendzone myself to avoid a relationship with someone I'm really compatible with. A couple of weeks ago I met a girl. As soon as I met her, I had weird vibes about her. Something just didn't feel like it added up. Last weekend, I really started to get to know her. We talked for hours each night and she hung out at my place today. The traces of narcism, the look she had when she lied that seemed to say she believed it, the flirting and the apparent clingyness to her Ex. It's a defence mechanism from the rejection she's had. Her Mother leaving when she was young, her boyfriends all "leaving for someone else" and her lack of faith in the education system (not in its value, but in how it didn't jump out to help her). Yeah, she's interesting, funny and a lot like me; but even with everything I've learnt she still seems like there's a huge wall up. She been telling herself her whole life that it's not her fault. People keep leaving and it's not her fault. She's unhappy and I thought I could fix it. I think that must have been what attracted me in the first place. There's something broken that I could try and mend. I could wait. I could ignore my gut feeling and the opinions of two of my best friends. I could try and start a relationship with this awesome girl that's easy to get along with and shares interest with me. But if I did, I wouldn't be happy. I'd keep thinking that there's something wrong here. and I don't think I can fix it. Sorry for the wall of text, just thought that I'd vent. Describe your current love life here if you want. Tell us a tale. UPDATE: Changed my mind, asked her out. She likes me and we're meeting up tomorrow for lunch to talk about it.

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  • I still think she's cray cray. I'd say get a friendship happening and if it develops into something more, try it out without really trying it out. Go on a date without dating. That sort of thing. You don't need to date people to make them happy. Also, what you said about the whole "She been telling herself her whole life that it's not her fault. People keep leaving and it's not her fault." makes so much sense. She has such a high opinion of herself it's driving me mad. "I mean, look at Jack and then look at me." Who says shit like that?

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