When people, especially women in my (granted very limited experience) feel guilty about something, it makes them (or us, I include myself in this group) very irritated. We tend to strike out at the subject of our irritation and guilt, even if the cause of that irritation or guilt is a promise that we failed to keep, or something we forgot to do. There are a few reasons why she is pissy, most likely it is because she is either, or both, jealous at your boss (an Asian woman like her) for doing something nice for you or she is feeling guilty for not doing the same despite the similar situations. My advice would be to sit down with her and explain, clearly and calmly, that you are disappointed and it is not the birthday that had you disappointed, it is the promises which were not kept. Say that you understand that her friend was having a baby, and that you are glad to share part of that joy with her, but there has been no sign that she remembered her promises. Tell her what you told us, that you were looking forward to this birthday [i]because[/i] of her promises, and that you had hoped to share [i]this[/i] joy and [i]this[/i] experience with her. Be understanding, be compassionate, and remember that a marriage is built on promises, but that sometimes promises get put on a back burner with the best of intentions, and never taken off. If you love your wife, all else follows. I would still buy the headset yourself though, and splurge a bit :D