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Edited by Nephilim713: 11/7/2014 3:10:57 AM
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How can people be so daft?

A family member of one of my professors died yesterday and as a result, class was cancelled. Today, in another class for my program, we were just about to begin the seminar. Prior to this class, one nice friend of mine was passing around a card to sign so we can pay our respects to our professor's family member so we can try to make her feel better, when she arrives next week. Okay, here is the ridiculously arsehole part of this story. So back in the other seminar, yeah? My friend decides to pass the card around so others can sign regardless of if they had her or not. My friend even explained with a nice smile that it would be nice to sign even if they never had her. Everything is going well until the card goes to two girls in front of me (who I never talk to) because I do not really like their style. ARE YOU -blam!-ING SERIOUS? They just looked at the card and one said to the other "We don't need to sign this because it doesn't matter" This is coming from girls who have been 3-4 years in my program now. Therefore, my initial reaction was that they never had said professor. They just passed it around as if it was nothing. Every single person's name was on it except them. How can you be so cold/daft? Holy shit, man and these people got in this hard program. Haha, wow. I thought they were nice people except for their style, but Jesus Christ. I honestly looked at them with a mean look and so did others. They knew we were disappointed in them. After class, I decided to be brave and approach them. I asked, "Why didn't you sign the card?" They replied, "Yes we did" Ha-ha, no, no you did not, is what I said. They then said we have nothing against you so leave us alone. I was brave and called them shit for not signing the card. The best part is that people agreed with me. I hope they gained something from me, and when I told my friend, she said they were horrible people. Every student might see this professor every day, considering our program is damn competitive so not everybody gets in. This is just pure stupidity. WHY would some people ever do this?

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  • Well, it could also be insensitive going around and blabbing about your professor's death in the family. When my grandfather died, the last thing I wanted was for people to come up to me and remind me over and over again what had happened. Perhaps they understood this, and weren't signing the card out of privacy concerns? Or maybe they thought it was inappropriate coming from them if they didn't know the professor personally? I don't know about you, but if one of my classmates who I wasn't close to [i]at all[/i] walked up to me after my grandfather's passing and tried to console me, I might have smacked them upside the head. It's uncomfortable enough dealing with death; you don't need random people butting into your life, too. I can appreciate your sentiment. It is very sweet. But you don't know the whole story, and they may not have wanted to call you out for invading your professor's privacy. Calling them assholes is likely going to do the exact opposite of what you were hoping it would do; I doubt they will be kind to you in the future, or that they will track down the professor/card to offer condolences. Just some food for thought.

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