The randomized drops in crucible are really frustrating at times, yes. I rarely even get anything out of crucible when I play it now, actually. But I've gotten 4 or 5 exotic items and I feel like I worked to get them. (2 were bounties, the others were bought with hard earned coins/motes). You might enjoy the game a bit more if you stop worrying about other players and focus on enriching your own experience.