Firstly, there is no default alpha to aspire to; you probably own more of yourself right now than that celebrity, model, actor or popular person. And you want to keep it that way. They're resources designed to move products to those already conditioned to receive them. Secondly, the concept isn't exclusive to males. Each of us is unique and interesting before we even take action. Sex will not make you an alpha. Power will not make you an alpha, though a certain type of power accompanies true alphahood. Beauty will not make you an alpha. Success will not make you an alpha, since the concept of success is often a sick thing within the modern world. Your alpha is yourself without doubt or hesitance. Your alpha won't please everyone, but it won't offend badly either; it should inspire the type of rivalry that exists within comradery, because an alpha is complete enough in themselves to balance their desires against the desires of others. You will think and and strive and nurture. You're not the alpha of a pack of animals, you're a human being. 'Popular' or 'Powerful' are not the same thing as 'Alpha'. There are always people out there who will appreciate you for who you are, no matter who you are. The alpha recognises themselves as the beginning and end of their part of the human totality, and takes responsibility for it in regards to others. If popularity or power defined an alpha then we could say that people like Hitler were alphas'. And since sex is a major card in the human deck, I'll say this: become yourself and you will find a partner. A partner that pleases you. Look at the people who intimidate you: there are a thousand people out there who intimidate [i]them[/i], and not even half of those will be better looking than them. Anyone can manipulate their way to sex, or even, sickeningly enough... love. An alpha will attract it by the force of their right vision.