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3/17/2015 6:30:50 PM
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Why The F*ck Is She Ignoring Me? Need A Serious Advice!
Alright, so first I didn't like her, not hated her, but, had no feelings for her.
And one day, she didn't come to school, and since I'm very nice with everyone, I asked her on Facebook why didn't she come, to check how she's doing.
Then, on another day, of course on Facebook, we discussed about policy, till the conversation chained to other stuff.
I felt like she's the one that understands me, I then, started to like her, she was helping me with many things, motivating me, and making me feel good.
I would lie if I told you I like her as a friend only, I started flirting with a polite way, and she seemed to like it, she was even asked me to comment on her pictures and flirt there (No, she isn't that kind of a girl that sits on Facebook 24/7 and feels good when she gets a stupid "like").
But in school, she would act shy and not talk to me alot.
Till one day, she was feeling bad, I talked to her, tried to make her feel good till she told me she isn't in a mood to talk to anyone, she apologized immediately as if she hurt my feelings, I told her it was okay and that she can talk to me whenever she feels better.
A day later, she deleted me off Facebook, it was on a weekend, I was broken then, and wondered what happened.
The day after, in school, I didn't want to talk to her because I was afraid of annoying her, but it surprised me that she started ignoring me and treating me like a stranger, she doesn't even say good morning anymore.
Did I do anything wrong? Did I hurt her feelings by any meaning? I just feel sad now, and feel like I lost a great friend, should I add her back on Facebook, or should I talk to her in school?
P.S: If there's a girl here that would explain to me what would she do if she were in the same situation of hers.
Another P.S: I'm a good looking guy overall.
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4 RepliesI'm not going to lie to you about this-but it might seem harsh. To me, it sounds like you were clingy. Maybe it's in how you told the story? idk. Personally, I've gotten a few guys in my time who started to spam me with messages and try to talk to me 24/7(especially whenever Id make the mistake of giving them my GT). I would never initiate a conversation, and I would always give them one word answers to things because I wanted to make them think I was boring and end the conversation. And, you know what? Some guys mistake my lack of interest for being sad. They thought that because I wasn't talking much that there was something wrong, and they were dead-set on fixing a problem that wasn't there. It took one guy like a month and a half of me not responding to about 20 messages on and off for him to stop messaging me. I hate to say this, but she was probably just being polite, from how you told the story. I think she was going through the same thing, because this happens all of the time to a lot of girls. Maybe something was [i]actually[/i] wrong the last day you two talked, but she clearly didn't want you to be there. I think you'd already crossed the line by doing that and that's why she's ignoring you now. Ask yourself these questions: -Who initiated the conversations? Was it you, her, or both? -Who asked most of the questions? You, her, or both? -Who had the longest replies? You, her, or both? -How often did you verbally express concern for her? I ask this because it seemed like you cared a lot about her from the start and may have come off as overbearing. -Do you think that she did a lot of things because she genuinely liked you, or because she was nice? -Did you talk much irl? If not, it's most likely for the same reason-She was just being polite. I'm sorry, but if I'm right, you've already gone too far too fast. You should just leave it be. Next time you start talking to a girl, don't treat her like she's so fragile. Just act like you're talking to a guy, but with a slightly restricted social barrier until you know what's acceptable. Don't assume that anything is wrong unless it's obvious. Even if something is obviously wrong, let it sit for just a little bit until she knows that you can tell. Then, you can express your concern. It's all about having good communication skills, really. [i] P.S. Sorry to be a Debbie-downer with my advice, but this is really just how I see it. Good luck in the future. c:[/i]
