Actually whenever the word homophobia comes up in any conversation, it's usually means exactly what it's definition is. You're probably just interpreting people wrong in conversation. It literally means fear of man. Hence straight guys avoiding gay guys like the plague. If you think of it in some other way, that's more than likely your own fault, isn't it? By the way, I'm straight, and I have some pretty cool gay friends. On the rare occasion, I've had to stop an advance and be like no man, not ever happening, but otherwise they pretty much act like dudes, no reason to treat them like they're cancer