Dude, I don't even know where to start. But your Utopian world is a fallacy. I operate in reality. The world is a certain way. We all should take responsibility for situations we put ourselves in. I have every right to walk up to someone and call them a bitch. They then have every right to call me a bitch right back. If I walked into a PETA convention and started skinning a deer on their conference table I should expect to catch some shit, right? I did nothing wrong. What I did was perfectly legal and ethical. But I put myself in a bad situation with a group of highly volatile people. It would be great if bigotry, racism, etc. didn't exist. It doesn't work that way. So deal with it yourself.