I've got nothing against that wish you luck guy, that's not what has the dames in an uproar (though, have you hear anything as rude in previous streams?) And dames is the main group for only women, but they encourage men and women to join their other group. (Forgive me I don't know it's name, didn't bother to ask and its early for me, can't remember if they told me when I joined) but if you contact dames and ask them "I am a male and want to join" they will direct you to the other clan