You really shouldn't use the word "retarded" to begin with. "Gay" is more forgivable but it completely depends on how you use it. If it's used aggressively like how most gamers use it, then no. Don't. If you use it in an obvious joking manner, then yeah it's probs ok

Regardless of what's socially correct I'm using the words like I'm not going to call somebody gay in the tense of you're a homosexual and should be treated lesser but say it more like -blam!- where it doesn't necessarily a term to insult homosexuals at all times.

The thing is if you continue to use gay as a derogatory term, people are going to think you do not like gays. Not everyone knows what you're thinking. Hell, I don't even do the joke thing and use the word gay ironically unless I'm only around people who will understand that it is a joke. That way my words have no unintended consequences. I guess what I'm trying to say is that your words do have an impact on others whether you know it or not. I get where you're coming from though.

So you have my mindset I'm censor myself from some words and topics because I don't want other people to be offended if people want to take it like I don't curse in front of girls and so on that's on them but I don't want to hurt somebody's feelings unintentionally because I'm not rude to others without reason