Don't participate in fundraisers. They save you and your family a lot of stress. I also envy your so willingness and love for basketball. You go out of your way and walk two miles to get there every day (or at least every day you have beasketball). Also tell your family that you can't do everything. Doing clubs and stuff doesn't solve or mean anything. It doesn't make you a good or bad person. If you don't want to attend these clubs then say so. By the way, I'm honestly not sure if you're a guy or a girl. The first section of your post is a bit misleading. Clarification would be appreciated if at all possible.