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12/2/2014 5:44:18 AM
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I'm having kind of a rough time..
I used to have a lot of friends when I lived in ohio. 2 people I considered my brothers. 5 people I hung with daily, and at least 15 people I saw weekly.
Well 2 years ago, I moved to southwest Oklahoma with a girl I was in love with. (She's military) At first it was fine, I thought I wouldn't have any problem making friends. I'm funny, I'm smart, and I love being around people.
Now, 2 years later, and I don't have any friends. I don't fit in here, people just don't like me. I think I try to hard. Me and the girl got married, and were really happy! But we work conflicting schedules and only see each other twice a week.
I kinda broke down today when I was looking for my spare keys in one of our closets. I opened the closet and saw a poker set I had bought it a year ago because I thought "man, when I get some buddies they're gonna love coming over and playing poker." "I'd better buy it now so I'll have it ready for my future buds."
It's still in the plastic wrapping. I have never opened it.
It just kind of felt like getting kicked in the nuts. Only a few of my friends from back home talk to me, and it's maybe a couple times a month. My wife has friends, but every time we go out they just tell her that I'm weird and awkward.
I only have one true friend left, and that's my dad. He lives in Phoenix,(12 hours away) he talks to me at least a few times a week. And we just got home yesterday from spending the holiday with him and his wife. But we had to leave, and I've been a little upset since.
I'm always alone.
[spoiler]im not trying to get attention, I'm just venting I guess. [/spoiler]
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4 RepliesIt may not just be you. You're probably at an age where you make a general transition from friends to family. Perhaps you moved just at that age so it wasn't gradual for you. A lot of people start moving apart in their mid-twenties (give or take). You keep some friends and lose most and distance doesn't help. Since others around you may be making this transition as well, they're not quite open to the idea of new friends or have difficulty finding time. Their friendships have already been developed and new ones are too much work. Also, if your wife is in the military there's a chance her friends are as well, or at least like-minded. They're a brotherhood and you're an outsider. Try finding a group who's into one of your hobbies. Make your own friends - don't try to win her's over if they can't be won. And if you're deperate for friends, don't SEEM desperate. Just be you and the people who like you for YOU will come around on their own.
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Family is forever, man.
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4 RepliesEdited by Heart of Sand: 12/2/2014 7:00:45 AMOh boo hoo, try moving every two years for your entire life. You're a grown ass adult, if you can't make friends then you have some serious social issues Edit: Since she's military get involved with the FRG
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1 ReplyThe floods your friend And so are the starfish /\ ___/ \___ \___ o _ o___/ / / \ \ /__/ \__\ _________________ | | | were your friends | /\ | ________________| / \ |/ _____/ \_____ \ (•) (•) / \ {} / / /\ \ /______/ \_____ \
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[quote](She's military)[/quote] Inb4 sexually abused.
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Edited by Twitchyloner: 12/3/2014 6:50:58 AMAh dude, at least your not living in a small beach town where if you don't fit in you're out'! I've been so used to not having friends, but it depends on your job and daily activities! As long as you are engaging other people each day, that's enough human social interaction I need! With that being said, I have alot of family who I see quite abit... But don't worry.. I do miss having close buds that you do everything with and feel completely relaxed. My best friend moved to England, so i moved back to the city... Feels better in different ways... I'm so glad I left that town... I was a total outcast... But now it's cool!
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Hey man I know exactly how you feel, to be honest it's why I'm a gamer now, I could never seem to make friends in person so I just ply games with randoms and sometimes they become my friends, I have a really good guy who's been gaming with me who's coming up for my bday dinner. Just keep your head up my man
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Don't be sad. Friends always come and go, but a pussy lasts forever.
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That's super cereal sad OP. What if your lady wife is getting boned by another dude bone? ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
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4 RepliesEdited by Prototape: 12/2/2014 7:03:42 AMI'm in the same position. Kind of by choice though, so it's a little different. I moved from my home state to Washington. It's been two or three years now, I don't talk to my old friends from my home state. The only people I've really hung out with since are co-workers, which constituted a few nights of heavy drinking and that was it. I switched jobs and don't really talk to old co-workers, just seems a little awkward at that point. People at this new place are a bit too serious for my taste, so I don't talk with them much. All they can talk about is work, so I just stay quiet and do my job. Sometimes, albeit rarely, I feel like it would be nice to have someone to hang out with. But I've always been pretty comfortable with being alone. I stay busy, to be honest I don't want someone to interfere with whatever spare time I have to just relax. Once I leave this job to go back and finish up my degree, I might feel differently. But ever since I moved here, it's just been one damn thing after another eating up all my time, so I've become very defensive of my spare time.
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The flood is always your friend!
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The flood will be here for support bruh
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Best recommendation that I could make is to join some social clubs. Whether it's cycling, hiking, skydiving, or even reading a book, there's probably a club in your area full of people with similar interests. The City Hall/Council should have advertisements concerning community events and you can also check the local college or university billboards for things to do with other like-minded people. Good luck, don't give up; the Internet is at your fingertips, I'm certain that there are some friends out there that you haven't met yet. :-)
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1 ReplyDude, I get it
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1 ReplyI'll play poker with you...
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1 ReplyIsn't the time with your wife worth it though?
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2 RepliesClasses might be a good way to meet people, is there a community college nearby where you can take an art class of some kind? I took a photo class and met a couple cool people in it. Or volunteer groups? those are probably hit or miss. Some make it their livelihood, but with christmas around the corner, id guess more "normal" people will be volunteering. Either way i hope you the best! :)
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3 RepliesWhat's your job? Also, people like your wife's friends annoy me so much.
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3 RepliesAny coworkers of note?
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That's brutal. Wish i had some advice for you, but i've never been in such a situation.
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i live in Phoenix!
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Not really great at giving advice for stuff like this, so I'll just give you a bump ;)
