This is the exact reason I never Raid, people have been kind enough to offer, but with rl commitments and a young child I can't always speak on the mic, and if they wake up crying that's my priority. I don't want to ruin someone else's in-game experience due to my rl commitments. I am happy doing strikes and weekly's, and if that means I never ding 30 then so be it, I would like to raid, but as I said before I am not about to ruin anothers in game time. It's also the reason I avoid the Crucible, normally I am a decent PvP player, but for whatever reason I just can't get to grips with Destinys PvP, so I avoid it, I don't want to be rewarded for being horrible while the MvP gets nothing.