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5/19/2013 5:49:26 PM
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Should I date my Best Friend's Ex Girlfriend?

I don't know what to do. They started going out a year ago and they broke up about 4 months ago. He broke up with her. They got back together 4 days later. A little bit before that, she lost interest in him but didn't know how to break up with him, so the relationship dragged on for those 4 months. Now, she decided to break it up. She started to talk to me (about the same time they started going out) and I swear I tried my best not to get tangled but I didn't know what could happen. I've never been with a girl before in my entire life and I didn't think she actually liked me back, even after the obvious signs. I fell for it and I feel horrible because I don't know if it's my fault. Its been about a week and a half. I talked to him about it because we really like each other, and he said it was okay at first. Then, I admitted I felt very guilty, and he said he was lying when he said it was okay. He said it hit him that he tried to keep it together after he broke up with her and they got together again, but it just wasn't the same and she ended it. he said if I could wait a week, and I told him I would wait as long as he wants. I still feel bad. I really like her, and what I had for that one weekend was magical because I've never had it in my entire life. If I end it with her, I may be alone all over again. But if I wait and go after her, my friend may still feel bad. He's already talking to another girl and he's about to get it in, but I also feel guilty, and people at school are starting to talk about us, but that's the least of my problems. What do I do? Should I wait about a month when my friend would be okay with it? Is it bad to get with my friend's ex? I don't want my best friend to feel bad, and he doesn't want me to be sad because he knows it's my first girl ever.

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  • I was friends with a married couple and we used to go out, party, double-date, dinners, movies, nights out, all sorts of things. I am now married to the woman in that formerly married couple. It's a tricky path, and there are lots of potential pitfalls and dangers. If you're really attracted to her, even have romantic feelings for her, then it may be worth it and you could end up being very happy together. But just one example of a possible "tricky situation"? How's your ego? Are you willing and able to know that she's going to have experiences with both of you, and may (consciously or unconsciously, deliberately or unintentionally) end up "comparing" the two of you? Can you deal with that? It's not an easy question to answer, and like I said, it is a tricky thing to do.

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