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Edited by Draco_Mantis: 5/9/2016 1:14:46 PM
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Sexism in raids.

So I have a concern I would like to express. Both my girlfriend and I are avid Destiny players. We both love raiding and doing POE and all of it. We both love PvE and PvP. My concern comes in this, we do have a group that will do all of these things with us. But as it stands all of us have jobs and/or school. So sometimes it is difficult to get all of us together. So what my girlfriend and I do is get a team of randoms. Why is it that just because she is a woman that plays games she gets automatic passes into every group there is. Yet I have to pass some sort of test. We will even ask for groups with room for two for both of us. And as soon as they find out she is a woman they will invite her anyway and tell her to ditch me. I have even had groups hit on her while I am in the chat. She is an amazing woman and tells them to stop or we are both leaving. Most of the time we have to end up leaving because they wont stop. I have even heard a guys girl yell at him to stop or she would break up with him. Just because she is a woman she gets treated like a slut from multiple other people. Why is this a thing. When did disrespect become the common thing. Edit: Thanks for the responses guys. I also have an experience to add that I forgot to mention on here. I have one female character which is my warlock. Well while on my warlock and with my girlfriend, A random guy at the tower decided to try and add us both. And as he put it he thought he it the jackpot. Like wtf is wrong with people that is so wrong and disrespectful it isn't even funny. Edit: OK. To say for the record the reason I said sexism is the derogatory statements made because of her gender. attitudes or behavior based on traditional stereotypes of gender roles. This is the definition of sexism as taken from dictionary.com. those fall under sexism. if you are going to try and bash me for just voicing a concern, at least get your facts straight before you do. Edit: Yes i Know all woman get hit on. That's the nature of males. I am talking about the way it is being done. Plain out disrespect in the things being said. I wonder if some of these things they said to a woman if they would ever dream to ever say them in person, or better yet in front of someone else. Edit: This is just voicing a concern. Thinking out loud. Asking a question. Whatever you want to call it.

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  • I accept only skilled players. I don't judge on gender, race, and sometimes age.

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  • I'm a girl and I don't get special treatment I get treated badly.

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    • if she's 12 I'm 12

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    • 12 year olds man, hopefully destiny 2 will be m

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      • Because some people are d**s. My main used to be a female hunter, and one guy msg me and we talked for a while. Then he said that it wasn't many girls playing this game and took a interest in game mechanic. And I said that I'm a guy... never heard from him since. Skirt hunters I call them

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        • Edited by SolarCerberuS: 5/8/2016 11:05:03 PM
          Many gamers have little real life interaction with females outside of their bloodline the thirst is real. Many women have been exploiting sexual attraction for many many years (strip clubs, free drinks at bars etc) online is just another form of interaction take twitch and youtube for example a simple flutter of the lashes can net them great tips.

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        • Funny story. I made a post on lfg for the raid and got 5 messages. Latter I made a post and said I was a girl and also said I was 322 light, I got 43 messages.

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          • Nerds try to protect their virginity with al their might, so they will repel any female that approach them...

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          • People are selfish idiots. Dont worry to much man just look for people who don't have a problem with women. Invite them to a party and keep on looking.

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          • Unfortunately for me, I apparently sound like a 13 year old boy. So people automatically have a slight dislike for me. Until they see my skill or I inevitably tell them I am a female. I try not to share that fact as I don't like to throw that around because people do act more like weird pre-teens when they find out. But when they call me kid I'm just like ugh what's worse to put up with? It's a tricky situation at times.

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            • It's very sad indeed these day's , been on from the start of gaming , taught my children to respect all and defend against , I do the same with my grandchildren these day's . So I say , I'm sad for them , good luck in the future to you and all..

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            • Get over it.

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            • A lot of gamers are virgins who rarely ever speak to women so when they get around one they act like its their one chance at love or even worse they want to show off to their buddies and act cool. Usually you can shut them down immediately by pointing out their virginity and lack of social skills. It's much easier to just boot them or make your own group.

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            • Anonymity brings the worst out in people. Idk what else you were expecting other than a high chance of finding shit bags. It also doesn't help that this community has the collective maturity of a fetus.

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            • There was a woman on our raid team, and she had a child, (Happy Mothers day by the way!) and the raid members were being very immature and treating her in a bad way, what was funny though was that the mother of someone who was harassing her said, "When are you going to move out of the basement!?"

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            • Yep, ur girlfriend didn't get to be the person who gets Golgoroths Gaze so that's sexist.

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            • Have your girlfriend ask for dic pics then give out your phone number. Mock mercilessly.

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            • Welcome to gaming where the majority are single sweaty teens who've never spoken to a girl before

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              • This is what happens when you play a game that's is catered to little kids.

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                • Stop crying like a bitch. Don't make a shitty post next time.

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                • Edited by ToastyCheese: 5/8/2016 8:08:20 PM
                  I don't care we are all equal no need to be a fanny and write a 100 page post.....about "waaaa" some one called me a bitch, women and men can live in one society we have enough with retarded femenazi's. We don't need 600 I support women posts so you can get e-girls....you have a girlfriend I doubt that because guess what I'd tell the -blam!- to go -blam!- himself job done no need to drag it out with a post hardly anyone will bother with because tons of people have already seen it.....

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                  • You're playing destiny. Most of my older friends (19-45) have ditched destiny, while my younger clan mates (10-16) avidly play destiny. Based on that demographic, most of the people are younger and not really shit in life so they have to act cool in video games.

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                    • Nerds are afraid of women. Simple answer. It has nothing to do with skill or anything like that. They're likely going to have a prejudice based on fear or resentment.

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                    • Ever since Anita sarcessian and the whole feminazis came around, woman have become more excluded. I know it's not all women who are as stupid as Anita but it's a shame they have to suffer for her terrible actions

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                    • Only the immature assholes who haven't seen a vagina act like that. Most older men who already have a good woman don't give a shit. Ran a full Kings Fall a few ago with two females in the group, never was an inappropriate thing even mentioned. *shrug*

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                    • I have women friends in destiny and I don't hit on them. I treat them like a person with respect.

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