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Edited by Draco_Mantis: 5/9/2016 1:14:46 PM
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Sexism in raids.

So I have a concern I would like to express. Both my girlfriend and I are avid Destiny players. We both love raiding and doing POE and all of it. We both love PvE and PvP. My concern comes in this, we do have a group that will do all of these things with us. But as it stands all of us have jobs and/or school. So sometimes it is difficult to get all of us together. So what my girlfriend and I do is get a team of randoms. Why is it that just because she is a woman that plays games she gets automatic passes into every group there is. Yet I have to pass some sort of test. We will even ask for groups with room for two for both of us. And as soon as they find out she is a woman they will invite her anyway and tell her to ditch me. I have even had groups hit on her while I am in the chat. She is an amazing woman and tells them to stop or we are both leaving. Most of the time we have to end up leaving because they wont stop. I have even heard a guys girl yell at him to stop or she would break up with him. Just because she is a woman she gets treated like a slut from multiple other people. Why is this a thing. When did disrespect become the common thing. Edit: Thanks for the responses guys. I also have an experience to add that I forgot to mention on here. I have one female character which is my warlock. Well while on my warlock and with my girlfriend, A random guy at the tower decided to try and add us both. And as he put it he thought he it the jackpot. Like wtf is wrong with people that is so wrong and disrespectful it isn't even funny. Edit: OK. To say for the record the reason I said sexism is the derogatory statements made because of her gender. attitudes or behavior based on traditional stereotypes of gender roles. This is the definition of sexism as taken from dictionary.com. those fall under sexism. if you are going to try and bash me for just voicing a concern, at least get your facts straight before you do. Edit: Yes i Know all woman get hit on. That's the nature of males. I am talking about the way it is being done. Plain out disrespect in the things being said. I wonder if some of these things they said to a woman if they would ever dream to ever say them in person, or better yet in front of someone else. Edit: This is just voicing a concern. Thinking out loud. Asking a question. Whatever you want to call it.

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  • They're probably little kids who a thirsty for girls

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  • I don't see a kitchen on the dreadnaught [spoiler]ayy[/spoiler]

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    • Welcome to gaming. Ratio of guys to girls pretty steep, ratio of guys with pride to little boys and retards even more steep. Keep your girl out of your raids if it makes you that uncomfortable. And find a big titty bimbo to steam her bullshit gameplay for the little boys and retards and take your cut

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    • Same here bro, I put up a thing in lfg. Get no response. My girlfriend puts one up and bam 3 friend request, 6 messages and like 10 invites. I'm like "serious"? [spoiler]Funny too, because she'll join and then they're all to shy to talk[/spoiler]

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    • Who cares

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    • Because children are allowed to play video games and their parents are scum and refuse to raise a child. Personally what ever you got going on in your pants is your business, as long as you respectful I don't care if you got a penis, vagina, or a wooden staff shoved in ya glory hole! JUST BE RESPECTFUL AND WE ARE RUGHT AS RAIN!

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    • Wrong forums to complain about this. It's full of 12 year olds who scream when they get a happy meal.

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    • Because half people in this community act like they can develop a video game and best raider in the world....have raid people who act like they were so good at kings fall that they got their excuses carried since they always caused the wipes

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    • Because immature boys are ridiculous people. Many of them never grow out of it either.

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    • I don't have a female friended, can't find one....

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    • I'm curious how old you two are, only to know if you are a millennial or not. I'm 30. The internet wasn't really a thing when I was a kid, so I, and I think my generation, don't really understand why people get offended by cyber bullying and whatnot or how people act on the Internet. Don't get me wrong, I don't condone it. But still, why get offended? It's the Internet. It's fundamentally not reality. Not to mention, you most likely have never, nor will ever meet these people in real life.

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      • It's weird now a days man. Sexism, racism, pretty much anything that ends with "ism" is becoming more popular. Doesn't make sense to me

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        • Welcome to the internet.

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        • Because they think that she'll end up giving them something (you know exactly what I mean) if they're nice to her. People don't give a shit if someone's in a relationship anymore, they'll do whatever it takes to get the girl. Personally, I treat girls and guys the same online and in real life, and I'm not "Mr. Steal Yo Girl" which is what everyone seems to be turning into nowadays. But yeah man, that's really the only reason why they're like that man, they want some you know what.

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        • Why is everyone offended about everything all the time now.....

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          • For a 12 year old boy, the power of boners trumps all

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          • Forgive the community, they have yet to experience a woman's touch XD It is unacceptable how some guy gamers act in these kind of situations like they have never heard or seen a girl/woman before, acting all tough and macho safe in their 3x3m rooms. I can only imagine how hard it would be for a girl/woman to actually find a decent group.

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          • I have several girl gamers that I play with. Being or girl or guy has nothing to do with reaction times and accuracy, if ur good ur good and I'll play with u. But if ur not then ur not and I'll tell u I think so straight up and if u happen to be a girl that's jus coincidence

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          • Only time I've seen sexism is when some random dude joined party chat and started saying vulgar stuff to a guys wife, during VOG. He got reported and blocked.

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          • Edited by xPLASMAx21: 5/9/2016 11:32:48 PM
            I've never seen this personally, but in my time playing with randoms I've only ever been matched with two women (the first left within 5 minutes because a squeaker joined, the second was cool and is still on my Friends List) so what do I know. At the end of the day, people just need to treat people like people. This applies for literally everything.

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          • My wife and I are with you on this. She had the unfortunate desire to choose an obviously female gamertag and the amount of "attention" she gets in game is laughable. We were actually discussing starting a clan for couples to play with other couples. She tried Dame of Destiny thinking that was a way to do it but they don't allow men period and were waaaay to large for her to get into anything.

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            • I don't care if you're a guy or girl or whatever, as long as you're not a dick when I'm playing with you. And if we're in a team of randoms and I see someone getting harassed and they don't stop, they get kicked.

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              It's funny cause a friend and I have tested this out, messaged randoms to inv, I would get picked but I would always bring him along. So many guys/kids trash talk me, but I have no issue talking $h!t back. This is their life, the only way they interact with people, not saying all are like this or that everyone on xbox is antisocial. Even chicks do it, I cannot find any normal females on here to play with. I've been hated on by chicks I never even spoke a single word to, they just like the attention and if you don't have that specific body part, they won't play nor talk to you. It doesn't bother me, it just helps me filter through trashy attitudes. Don't let the little courage they build up to feel good about themselves for ten minutes, linger in your brain for more than 2 seconds. Get out and find a new group, there are more people out there, who are not jerks, you can play with. I bet 5 motes of light, I'll get a few stupid messages cause of my GT, but I'll never change it. Why should I? Cause some kids can't control their mouths?! ,,!,, <--- the bird to them

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              • LOOK @ my name! i even did oryx challenge i even did the raid entirely without mic! sure i got kicked 2-3 times but come on if she plays good there's no chance she's getting kicked

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              • You both should be playing a different game

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                • Edited by More Power: 5/9/2016 4:35:51 PM
                  1- Ask to be fireteam leader. 2- Booting is the Gjallarhorn of behavioral management tools. Or... Join a group/web site that contains mostly 25 and up players.

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