I think a person who is everyone's best friend and has allegiance to nothing in particular is boring. Give me someone with a personality that has jagged bits and a certain amount of ruthlessness in their hearts. When it comes to protecting their families and standing up for things they believe, I want someone who can get ugly about it. That's sexy. Easy relationships are easily abandoned. Its sexy when someone wants to fight to keep it- even if it means fighting with each other about something instead of sweeping it under the rug because they don't want to think about sad stuff.