Some games aren't for everybody. It sounds like Destiny is that way for you. Good luck elsewhere & I hope you find a game that will satisfy you. As for me & many others, the game schedule works out just fine. I have three kids & spend plenty of time with them & my wife. I still find time to raid each week, do trials & IB when they pop up... I've even got the game in Xbox AND PS4, so I'm running 6 characters. I play the game with my sons & my wife plays from time to time too. The difference? I actively seek out other players on 3rd party sites & cultivate relationships when I find decent likeminded players. I could complain about s number of things but I try to use that energy for gaming & personal relationships. You might consider trying that too, but you know... do what works for you.