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9/5/2015 2:30:19 PM
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To help out and stay behind to carry stuff, that bad? There's also being tricked into saying yes, so I'll help with something I'm not wanting to help out on, that bad too?
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I'm not really sure how old you are, but it sounds like things that should be pretty simple to say no to, wouldn't you agree? Isn't it good to help out your friends and maybe do things once in a while you don't want to, just not all the time?
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I help out my friends pretty much every single day, and they take advantage of it, wouldn't that annoy you?
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It would, isn't that why I said you just need to learn to say no? It isn't rude to say no, isn't it just politely speaking your mind and letting your friends know that you wish not to do what it is they asked of you? Would you mind giving me a "classic example" of what they make you do so I can better understand your predicament?
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Friend: Hey, can you lend me some money? Me: How much? Friend: 20 Me: Fine. [spoiler]Didn't know how to word it with question marks. [/spoiler]
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Ah, isn't that a classic example of just saying no? Would you believe me if I told you it gets easier after you've done it? [spoiler]Ur fine[/spoiler]
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I guess so, I'll try it more often, anything problems like that for you?
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I had different problems, I told you my old best friend tried to manipulate me all the time right? For example, he would be really super nice to me, and then talk crap about me to my other friends so that they would shy away, and so he could control me as my single friend, which I think you would agree is pretty bad right? I hate myself for not realizing it, for years I wondered why I couldn't make any more friends, and do you know how many friends I made after I got myself away from him?
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It doesn't sound like many at all, is it? Did he change you because you were around him so long, or is it something else?
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You don't think I made many friends ;_; ? Actually, he ended up changing me for the better, I learned to let insults roll of my shoulders, I learned to watch for manipulation, I learned to never trust someone without them giving you a good reason to, I learned one friend is cool but dozens are better, isn't that important?
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That's really good thinking, I thought he might have made things worse, no? Ever seen him again?
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I would say he had a poisonous impact on my life for a while, but I really turned things around for myself, he still tells people bad things about me, (today a friend said he told her to stay away from me), but wouldn't you think he's lost a lot of his credibility by now? Honestly, after all the stuff he fed people and them finding out what a load of crap it was, he went from dozens of friends like me now, to two, do you think that was worth it?
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No, he messed up there, sounds like he lost a lot of good friends, but today? He is still treating you like that now?
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Funny thing is he doesn't even go to our school any more, he goes to a trade school for half days, but he hangs with people from our school and still talks about me, and over the years he has became somewhat of a role model for me, not to follow but to avoid, and I think you just have to think similarly you know? Your friends may be great people, but you have to use your backbone, give a little but don't give everything they ask of you especially if you don't want to, sounds simple, hard in practice, but would I be wrong in thinking you are up for it?
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I think you're right, I mean I think I should just stand up for myself like you did, he tries his hardest to annoy me, what things does he say about you?
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It ranged from petty "he's a bad person" remarks to elaborate lies like me touching him in his sleep when I spent the night, he varies his material, I'd say you know what to do with your friends right? They wouldn't be good friends if they dumped you off when you stood up for yourself now would they? If that does happen, you just have to find some good friends, I know it is not fun to go without friends, but I'm sure you can find more irl, would I be wrong?
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What if he keeps coming back? What if he just doesn't leave you alone because he wants to annoy you? What then?
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Are you referring to me or you?
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You, what if he doesn't stop bothering you?
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If you want to know the honest truth, he can go suck me, I don't care about him anymore which is sad, are you like me in that you don't like hating someone that much? My rage has subsided since the last I spoke to him, most people he talks to realize he's lying, and he can have no effect on me anymore, why shouldn't I let it go? That is what I asked myself, and that is what I did, I just pray he doesn't go awry and hurt others, wouldn't you agree that is the best I can do?
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You're right about that, has he hurt you the most?
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Probably, but didn't I say I just try to forget about all that and hope he improves over the years? Are you pretty good at making people that don't like to talk about themselves talk about themselves with you? [spoiler]I don't mind it btw, I just usually do the same thing and have other people talk with me and try not to dominate the conversation with my problems, hahaha[/spoiler]
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Yes and no, is this subject bothering you? We can change it or keep it, I'm asking because I don't want to remind you of the things your friend has done, is it ok? [spoiler]Yea I don't like to dominate the conversation with my problems because its a bit selfish to me. Sorry for replying so late, busy weekend. [/spoiler]
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I don't really [i]mind[/i] talking about it, but just like you, I don't like dominating the conversation with my problems (they aren't that big of a deal compared to real problems), why don't you tell me something about you? [spoiler]We are very similar, and you are fine :)[/spoiler]
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I don't know..? Family/friends dying on a special day? [spoiler]That actually happened. We are similar, and thanks.[/spoiler]
