Well from a PS4 user, I would say I am a hardcore gamer, mainly destiny, and from my experiences, I've only had 3 issues so far, including the Christmas incident and every day till today, with the PSN servers. Sure, it may have been down, but many of those times were planned maintenance. Since you're becoming a dad soon, I would assume you will become a much more casual player than normal, so server issues won't affect you as much as everyone else here is saying. The graphics are also slightly better, with it being more obvious on larger screens. The home is definitely much different than Xbone, but it's not as cluttered. However for a new user, I can see how it may take getting used to. Party works fine, I've yet to have issues with parties. It has a rest mode, where if an update on a game is out, it will download on its own in rest mode, but idk if that requires PSN+ ( but I expect you would have this ). If this also exists on Xbone, then you can just ignore that :P . In rest mode, it can also charge your controller, and anything else that charges with a USB. The charger for the controller also seems to fit into most android phones, so that's another plus haha. Overall, if you don't think it'll be hard to grind your current gear back up, I would personally recommend PS4, but its definitely hard to decide.