I've never been through something like that, but I know people who have. Step one: Be straight about it, own up to the fact that you violated your word and slept with anther woman. Step two: Seek to amend your marriage, she has every right to divorce you for this, if she chooses to stay with you, never break your vows again. If your wife stays with you: Love that bastard child you fathered. It will be awkward for him/her, but if you continue with the pregnancy, you just brought a new human into the world, teach him/her about it and how to be a good individual. If your wife leaves you: You should probably get in a serious relationship with the woman who is pregnant with your child, if she's not going to abort. You screwed one thing up, the least you can do is be a father to that child. [b]Regardless of how it pans out, be a good dad to the kid you already have, he should take priority here, adults can handle relationship failure, kids can't. [/b] :/