It's one thing to tell someone to "go make friends" it's another to walk in their shoes and experience what they've experienced. How many -blam!- victims have developed behavioral disorders and been told "just get over it" or "just get help". It's not that easy. Just because someone isn't comfortable making friends doesn't mean they don't want to be around people and they don't wish they could. It's too easy to judge when you only try to see the world through your own eyes.